Speaking in her new Vlog, she said that it’s a waste of meaningful time dating a guy for five years. Toke, who is divorced from her ex-husband, Maje Ayide, said she is speaking from experience as she has previously been in a long-term relationship.
She said that having a long-term relationship doesn’t mean that a couple would have a happy married life if they decide they want to get married.
She said, “I do not understand why you should date someone for more than two and a half years. That is my take. I feel like if you meet someone, two years is decent, two and half years is decent. By three years, its like ‘what again are you’re trying to find out’.
“What didn’t you find out in the first and second year? I feel like 5 years is taking the piece and for seven years, you are absolutely having a laugh. By 10 years, it’s like ”are you the lord of the rings?
“I can say this because I have been in a long-term relationship, so I can tell you how I feel about it. My answer is “no” because I feel like often times, long courtships do not translate to a happy marriage. Sometimes you find people who date forever. When they get married, they don’t make it past that year or two or three years.
You find people who get married in a year and a half. 10 years down the line, they are still together. When people show you who they are, you have to believe them. If you find yourself in a five year, seven years 10 years relationship, it is enough for you to sit back and ask the guy what is going on and where are we going to?
“Why would you want to date someone for seven years? In that seven years, some people have gotten together, gotten married, had children, divorced and you are still this person’s girlfriend. There is nothing that you would not find out in three years that you want to find out in eight years.”
Speaking on Cassie and Diddy’s recent breakup;
Toke said, “Cassie and Diddy everyone is talking about. They dated for eleven years. She was a baby when they met. This was a girl who came out, had an amazing single, very stunning young lady, all of a sudden she started dating Diddy. A lot of people asked questions because we have all known Diddy as a guy who has found it had to commit.
“He has had baby mamas, he was engaged for a very long time. He has never hidden the fact that he is not the commitment type of guy. I have always often wondered why Cassie stayed that long. This is a girl that could have done so much more in the last eleven years than traveling with Diddy, kissing him on Instalive and just being his girlfriend.”
“If you are stuck in a relationship with someone who can empower you and all they would rather see you as is a handbag, girl you should walk away. It seemed like she was more into the relationship than her own self-development. I don’t know her and this is not a judgment against her. People do whatever it is that makes them happy. However, I feel that a lot of people tend to date for a long time, hoping that it would either lead to marriage and sometimes it’s often not the case.”
“And now Diddy is dating a younger girl. I almost cried when I heard it. A 26-year-old girl. Cassie if you ever watch the video, you have to upgrade. You have to go and find a Russian billionaire. You know the type if you don’t like to work, they would keep you in Gucci and Gold for the rest of your life.
Then just hire Diddy to perform at your wedding. Just hire him because you feel like paying him some coins. That is the best revenge you can give to a guy like that.”
ArtX: A tale of how Lagos housed Africa’s largest Art Exhibition
ArtX: When Lagos housed one of the largest Art Exhibition in Africa and it was artistic. Enjoy the read.
Days have gone by and the beautiful memories of art, conversations, meet-ups, body languages as well as lectures during ArtX 2018 remains pleasurable. My experience balanced all activities outlined above and more. Importantly, the event held from November 2 – 4 at Civic Center, Lagos.
I chose to visit on Saturday, 3rd November 2018 which meant that I traveled from outside the state on a Friday and return on a Sunday. For every ‘good unplanned factor’, I got to Lagos by 1 am Saturday morning. Yet, my exhibition started taking its shape from the relative silence, brightening, and cleanliness of Berger Park, to the artistic contents of the wall across the roads that I plied. Busy, crowdy and noisy Lagos gave way to my first hall of the art showroom. It was a tired day but amazing one.
Because sleep is a form and a source of art, it was relieving moments that gave strength. This strength fueled my zeal for the reason that I came into Lagos, ArtX. By 12 pm I was walking the hallways of Civic Centre, lined with pieces of works from galleries. Some works were hanging, laid down, televised and even shown on 3D cameras. Everywhere I turned, reminds me of how creative human minds can exceed.
Though the exhibition timed 10 am I was still an early bird and by 5.30 pm when I took my leave, people were still coming in, in their numbers. My most priced moment was seeing “Tutu”, an artwork by Nigeria’s best-known modern artist, Ben Enwonwu, painted in 1974. It was a welcoming showpiece. Enwonwu painted three versions of the portrait. One is in a private collection in Lagos, while Peppiatt is hunting the third in Washington.
Music brought me back to reality and Yinka Shonibare’s was my next stop. Using African craft to tell a European story is rare and Yinka did not disappoint. With 18 stands representing different foreign and African art galleries, an art lover, wouldn’t get enough of the works displayed.
Children were not left out as I witnessed the attentiveness that a group of them gave their tour guide/instructor. They murmured words at some works, asked questions on some while they merely enjoyed the pleasant view that many others had to offer. A particular child with her mum kept asking about a piece of work while her mum patiently dished out the basic content of the piece in words that the little admirer can understand. Such a sight to see.
After a walk around, I dropped by the restaurant place to grab a snack and drink but importantly meet new people. I met an interesting lady who is a doctor and a documentary photographer. We conversed on how just a few people get to have the same career and passion. We shared our insight on the day’s event and we took professional pictures.
An art lecture organised by the event on Contemporary Art was next. The guest, an Art Critic Writer, and an Art Professor shared from their wealth of knowledge on how the media is unprepared for an Art Specific Reporting and the quality of university education. Both, as was discussed, affect the way Nigerians absorb and perceive the concept and quality of Art. They recommended that art should be projected just as much as other sectors like fashion, gets massive attention.
They touched on the scarcity of female art journalist, child art specialty, art academic protégé, art and science, old and new art reviewers, art and politics, art publicity; art, Biafra and Nigeria, art as a continuum for humanity and much more.
In all, I will remember ArtX 2018 for telling an Art Story in Lagos.
Google celebrates Christy Essien-Igbokwe’s 58th posthumous birthday with a Doodle
A Google Doodle is a special, temporary alteration of the logo on Google’s homepages that commemorates holidays, events, achievements and people.
“Born in Akwa Ibom state on this day in 1960, Christy Essien-Igbokwe was an actress and singer known as “Nigeria’s Lady of Songs.”
“Fluent in her native language of Ibibo, Essien-Igbokwe also spoke and sang in English, Yoruba, and Igbo giving her music a broad appeal across cultural and tribal lines.
“Among her many popular releases, the inspirational record “Seun Rere” became a rallying cry within Nigeria,” Google said.
Google said that she once recalled saying that her childhood was very challenging, she used to have a brother who was a soldier then and was always on transfer owing to the nature of his job.
It said Essien-Igbokwe was orphaned very early and her love of music inspired her to persevere.
“I didn’t know I could sing until I found myself doing so”, the great artist recalled of her experience being caught up in the spirit of music. I was like an abandoned child, my condition made me discover myself,” she was quoted as saying.
Google said that from humble beginnings to singing in clubs, she landed an appearance on a televised talent show, which led to a role on the popular TV show ‘The New Masquerade’.
“Essien-Igbokwe released her first record, Freedom, at age 17 and never looked back. Her 1981 album Ever Liked My Person became a smash hit. In 1987 the Akwa-Ibom artist recorded a song, “Akwa Ibom Mmi,” which became an anthem of pride for those sharing her heritage.
“Using her fame to highlight social issues, she appeared in the Hollywood films Flesh and Blood and Scars of Womanhood, which addressed the abuse of women and children.
“In 1981 Essien-Igbokwe helped establish the Performing Musicians Association of Nigeria with renowned artists such as King Sunny Adé and Sonny Okosun, becoming the organization’s first female president in 1996.
“She was also a staunch supporter and advocate for the Performing and Mechanical Rights Society, often donating her own royalties to health and education programmes benefiting women and children as well as the handicapped,” it said.
Google said that using the same music that uplifted her to uplift her people, Essien-Igbokwe would go on to perform at 2009’s Inspire Africa Benefit Concert and received many awards in her lifetime in recognition of her contributions as an artist and humanitarian.
Essien-Igbokwe, a Member of the Order of the Federal Republic (MFR), died in Lagos on June 30, and was buried Sept. 10, 2011.
Happy Birthday, Christy Essien-Igbokwe!
Why Air Nigeria was suspended
The federal government Thursday explained that the national carrier which was earlier billed to kick off in December was suspended temporarily because the process to actualise it was delayed.
The Minister of State for Aviation, Hadi Sirika, has also also stated that Aviation Security (AVSEC) personnel of the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN) will start bearing arms within the next three months.
The government said the transaction advisers did not complete the process on modalities on the ownership of the new airline in time.
Sirika who made this known yesterday, hinted that, in recent months, several misinformation, factual errors, insinuations and fabrications have been peddled in both social and print media on the project.
He informed that, Lufthansa, which was the first approved transaction adviser was rejected due to its outrageous demands which included opening an escrow account, refusal to pay tax and demand for 75 percent up front payment.
Sirika who spoke yesterday at the 5th aviation stakeholders’ forum in Abuja, also disclosed that another major factor that stalled the process was the inability of the federal government to provide sovereign guarantee for the procurement of 30 airplanes estimated at $300 million to be paid in installment till
According to the minister, “Estimated funding requirement for the establishment of the project is 300million dollars up to 2020. Initial start–up capital of 55million dollars made up of 25 million dollars for deposit for new aircraft and 30million dollars for working capital from June to December 2018.
Saraki said Aviation Security (AVSEC) personnel of FAAN will start bearing arms within the next three months.
The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reported that Sirika made the disclosure yesterday at the fifth aviation stakeholders’ forum in Abuja.
“Within the next three months, we will get the FAAN AVSEC to start bearing arms like their counterparts in the Transportation Security Agency of the United States, ” he
The minister recalled the Turkish Airline incident in 2016 where some aggrieved passengers overpowered AVSEC officials at the Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport, Abuja, and gained access to the tarmac.
Sirika also cited the recent occurrence at Sokoto Airport where some political supporters forcefully entered the tarmac, stressing that these actions were clear security breaches.
He said the personnel would be provided with new uniforms, sniffer dogs and other things that would enable them discharge their responsibilities of securing and safe guarding airline officials, passengers and other airport users. “So, for us, our focus is to ensure that we are secured and safe. Aviation is not just about building terminals because safety is one of the most critical aspect,” Sirika noted.
2Face in tears as wife and baby mama end rift
The rift between Annie Idibia and 2Face’s baby mama, Pero Adeniyi, seems to be finally resolved, as a video of the women making peace has gone viral.
2Face Idibia was seen crying in the video as the two women, surrounded by friends, reconciled their differences.
The rift between Pero Adeniyi and Annie Idibia can be traced back to when they called each other out on social media around in 2015/2016.
Their relationship hit rock bottom when pictures of 2Face and Pero kissing at 2face’s nightclub hit the internet. Annie apparently stormed the nightclub in a rage after she was informed, but was led to a room to await 2face’s arrival. She was allegedly restrained in the room and when she was finally released, the ‘meeting’ between Pero and 2Face had ended.
However, when the news of the incidence broke the internet, Annie released a statement with “That1960Chick”, saying she didn’t go to the club, and the incident was just a distraction.
Annie said “I am aware of the photo’s circulating the internet with my husband and Pero Adeniyi. I want to state officially that I was not in that space at that time and therefore there was no confrontation between myself and Pero Adeniyi.
“Pero Adeniyi and this momentary indiscretion pose no threat whatsoever to my relationship with my husband. As a matter of fact, for all of our children’s’ sake, I do encourage cordial relationships with parties involved. This year, my focus is solely on God, Family and my career which doesn’t give me the luxury of paying attention to any distractions,” the statement read.
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